Thursday, March 15, 2018

What is Bullying?

“Bullying” is a term we hear frequently these days. We, as educators and parents, are glad bullying has been brought to the forefront. We want our school to be an environment in which every child can thrive and be encouraged. However, often, the term “bullying” is thrown around carelessly. Let’s take a close look at what bullying is, what it is not, and how to deal with bullying when it occurs.
Bullying is a form of social competition wherein the bully seeks to exert power and domination over another. According to a bullying prevention website:
A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself."
This definition includes three important components:
1. Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves unwanted, negative actions. It is one sided.
2. Bullying involves a pattern of behavior repeated over time. It is intentional and repetitive.
3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength. The victim is typically outnumbered or over powered. It is done to harm or control the victim. ( Italics are added.)
Bullying can involve physical harm, verbal assaults such as insults, threats, name calling, gossiping, or emotional damage through isolation, exclusion, and intimidation. Most incidents, however, are done in isolation or not to the same person or they are not one sided. Confrontations are, unfortunately, a part of relationships. If someone gets angry, mad, or jealous, he may respond in these inappropriate and hurtful ways. However, only when it meets the above criteria, is it identified as bullying.
         Why do some people bully? People may bully because they themselves have been hurt or bullied in the past. Some people get a sense of power and control through putting others down. These people tend to have low self- esteem although they may appear to be overly confident or arrogant, Perhaps this why the Bible teaches us to “ Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44
Some bully for entertainment or to get attention. Some are jealous or just don’t understand differences. Whatever the underlying reason, bullying is unkind and hurtful. Our goal at FPD is to teach all the children to treat others as they would like to be treated…To love the Lord our God with all of our hearts, souls, minds, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves.
         In addition to praying for their hearts, we want our children to be equipped to handle from a position of strength when they or others are being mistreated. Some skills which help are:
1. Teach your child what is important is God loves them and just because someone says something mean, does not make it true. Teach the children not to wear the labels others may put on them.
2. Remind your child to pray for others even if they are unkind.
3. Teach your child to “speak the truth in love,” to firmly, but gently tell the person to stop the misbehavior and tell them how it makes them feel.
4. Teach your child to act and hold himself confidently, to stand up straight, look people in the eye, and speak distinctly.
5. Ignoring the bully may be best if the bully is a stranger or if it is happening for the first time.
6. Using a sense of humor is a great way to diffuse a bully.
7. Bullies want to get a reaction. So, teach your child not to react, but to instead compliment the bully or be kind to him. This will throw him off his goal. The Bible teaches saying kind words to your enemy is like “pouring hot coals of fire on their head.” Proverbs 25:22
8. Teach your child the difference between being assertive and being aggressive or passive.
9. Encourage your child to build friendships through extracurricular activities such as church programs, sports, lessons, or plays. A child with lots of friends is not an easy target.
10. Keep the communication open in your relationship with your child and let an authority figure at school know about the bullying as soon as an incident occurs. Teach your child that telling when someone is being intentionally unkind repeatedly and hurting another is not the same as tattling. Tattling is done to get another person in trouble. Telling is done to keep someone from getting hurt.
Dealing with an unkind person can be the perfect opportunity to teach your child to love the unlovely, to get his self-esteem from his relationship with the Lord, and to put another’s needs above his own. In the end, our goal is to help our children grow into the person God desires him to be.

Lower School Newsletter from Mrs. Putnal

Our mission at First Presbyterian Day School is to educate and equip students to change the world for God’s glory.

GRANDPARENT’S DAY March 23rdJAMMIN’ in the JUNGLE Reception at 8:30am in Clark Fine Arts lobby. 3K-2nd grade show at 9:00. Reception at 10, show at 10:30 for 3rd-5th graders. SPECIAL INSTRUCTIONS: Due to limited space in the auditorium, this year we are asking all 3K-2nd grade students to please STAY in their classroom during the 3rd-5th grade performance. Grandparents can pick them up afterward in their classroom. Watch for streaming information to come next week.
COSTUMES: Jeans (pants, shorts, skirt) and plain, any solid GREEN color is fine. SHOES: Any shoes that normally can be worn to school are fine. No flip flops. Email for more info.

LIBRARY NEWS: BOOK FAIR is HERE!  We hope you and visiting grandparents will find time to stop by the Library for our book fair Monday, March 19 through  Friday, March 23, 8am - 3:30pm Mon-Thurs, and 8am - 12noon Friday.

SAFETY FIRST! Parents, did you know that at FPD, throughout the school year, your child participates in monthly fire, severe weather, and safety drills? We know the importance of practicing this with our students so they feel safe and secure. Please note in efforts to continue finding ways to keep students as safe as possible, the front doors of the elementary building will be locked at all times. If your child arrives after 8:15, you will need to continue to come into the office and sign them in at the front counter. All entering the Elementary and Kindergarten buildings will need to be “buzzed in” by automatic lock/unlock system.
ALL VISITORS …will continue to need to sign in and get a red visitor’s sticker.

GARDEN CORNER: Time to clean out the gardens and get planting!  Spring planting time is set for the first two weeks of April. We always need and enjoy parent helpers! Please let your teacher know when you can volunteer. Thanks!
BE WATCHING for our new greenhouse J! Thank you to annual fund donations!!

BOX TOPS: Don’t forget to send in your BOX TOPs. We receive school funds for the Box Tops we turn in J

LOST & FOUND will be emptied during Spring Break. Please claim your items!

NEWS from the VIKING STORE: Uniform Consignment Sale…

  Backpack Ministry Immediate Needs are apple sauce, tuna cans, Vienna sausages, peanut butter crackers, and Capri Sun juice pouches. Thanks for your help. We have had many generous donations so far this yearJ

Goodwill Donation Drive: Save items for April 14- 22 for our Goodwill Donation Drive Competition! FPD will compete with other area schools to see who takes the most donations to a local Goodwill center. After Spring Break your student will bring "tickets" home to attach to your donations. You will need 1 ticket per delivery. Please share tickets (you may make copies) with relatives and neighbors. We have received monetary awards from Goodwill for the last 3 years. We have purchased things for our science lab, classroom items, and playground balls with our awards.

Register for the 18th Annual FPD Golf Tournament! April 16th. Invite your friends and family and join us for the 18th Annual FPD Golf Tournament. This four-person scramble is hosted at the beautiful Idle Hour Country Club and includes breakfast, lunch, and dinner. For more info:

SUMMER CAMP Coming ONLINE! Our fun-filled summer camps will be open soon for registration online at Sign up before your favorite classes are full! Lots to choose from! Invite your friends and family to join you. Lots of fun, new, and exciting ways to spend hot summer days.


  *** COMING UP ***
  • March 23 – Early Dismissal – half-day
  • Spring Break – Monday-Friday, March 26-30 HAPPY EASTER!
  • Elementary Chapel April 10th and April 24th at 12:05 pm. Parents always welcomeJ
  • Testing Week- 1st-8th grades – April 9th-13th (NO LATE START this week)
  • NO LATE START on Wed., April 11th due to testing
  • FPD Golf Tournament – April 16th 
  • 4th Grade trip to Jekyll Island 4H Center – April 24-25
  • 5th Grade trip to Washington, DC – May 7-11
  • Elementary Field Day- Friday May 18th  9:00--12:00. Thank you for volunteering! Early Dismissal 1st – 5th grades.

5th Grade Family Movie Night!!

“A Wrinkle in Time” is playing at AmStar 16 on Zebulon Road at 7:25 – not 6:50, as we included in the flyer.  (We called to confirm the time yesterday since it was not yet posted to the theater website.)

We hope to see many of you at our family movie night tomorrow!

Monday, March 12, 2018

Rising 6th Grade Parents Mtg.

on Tuesday, March 13th @ 6:30 pm in the Lecture Hall

Tuesday, March 06, 2018

Middle School Competition Cheer Info

There will be a Cheerleading Try-out parent meeting on  Monday, March 12 at 6pm in the Lecture Hall for all girls interested in trying out for any of the 5 cheer squads for the 2018-19 school year (Rising 6th-12th).  Try-out clinic will run from Monday, March 19-Wednesday, March 21 from 3:30-5pm in the MAC.  Try-out Evaluations will be Thursday, March 22nd after school in the MAC.  Accommodations for spring sports during try-out week must be pre-approved with Coach Kemper or Coach Murnan (more info about this will be provided in parent meeting) A signed permission slip is also required to attend try-out clinic and will be handed out at the parent meeting. 

Squads available:

Middle School competition cheer- Rising 6-8
Middle School Spirit- Rising 7-8
Varsity Competition- Rising 9-12
JV Spirit- Rising 9-10
Varsity Spirit- Rising 11-12